A woman's handbag represents her vagina, but not in shape, color and content, but in the degree of intimacy for its owner. Try putting your purse on your knees, closing your eyes and virtually appropriating this item for yourself, feeling it as yours through your body. Many women feel their purse in their lower abdomen. And this is, of course, a topic for exploring the issue of personal boundaries. Imagine that a stranger opens your purse and starts rummaging through it. What are you experiencing? Anxiety, fear, shame, indignation, aggression, or maybe it doesn’t cause you discomfort? These feelings will help you feel how you protect the approaches to your personal space. Do you allow anyone into it? Who and under what conditions? You can stand firm and guard your limits, protecting them like a tigress; You can laugh and say, “Oh, maybe it’s not necessary?”; You can let some in and close yourself off from others. The entire experience of your life determines how you protect and experience the boundaries of your personal space. It also determines which part of the psyche you react to attempts to make a breach in your boundaries. The tigress is the adult part; a faint laugh - a child's. Whatever part is responsible for patrolling the borders, it is very important to always talk about what behavior towards you is unacceptable and still strive to transfer the borders to the area of ​​​​responsibility of the adult part. Silence, false agreement for fear of losing the partner's favor inevitably leads to neuroses and diseases of the physical body. Patients with dyspareunia (pain during sexual intercourse) are most often women who are unable to protect their boundaries at the mental level, and their vagina from unwanted invasion at the body level. If the psyche has let you through its cordons, then the body has no choice but to send a signal through pain that this cannot be done with it. Listen to the signals of your body, analyze its messages and allow only those, only then and only then, to reach it. when it can bring you joy! Psychogenic dyspareunia is successfully treated with psychotherapy. Sign up for face-to-face consultations in St. Petersburg and online. with Love, Ksenia Kuld 8 981 181 28 24 photo from Freepik