What strong emotions we sometimes experience when looking at the successes and achievements of other people! But everything is to blame for our human need to compare ourselves with others. Without this comparison, we cannot socialize and go through the path of developing our own personality. But a feature of our psyche is that the inevitable comparison of ourselves with others leads to the birth of the same inevitable feeling for most of us as envy. Envy begins to manifest itself in childhood, and for many this feeling, once it appears, persists forever. The only question is how much envy worsens your life and the lives of those around you. Sometimes seemingly harmless desires push a person to rash, impulsive actions that can ruin relationships with loved ones and friends (or even lead to a break with them), ruin a reputation, and even lead to health problems (I’m generally silent about outright criminal actions ). A person eaten by black envy can destroy himself, not finding peace and mental balance. However, if you know how to direct envy in the right direction, then thanks to this feeling you can correctly set priorities, objectively assess your capabilities, wisely choose goals and ways to achieve them. Envy, as a reflection of our desires, can be constructive and destructive. The fulfillment of some desires (achieving goals) leads us to success, to harmony in our own lives, while the fulfillment of others makes us unhappy; suddenly it turns out that this is not what we wanted. I believe that we can and should work with envy so as not to waste our emotions to the detriment of yourself and those you envy, and use this energy for your own personal and material development. But to do this, you need to deeply understand why it arises, what causes feelings of envy in you and what emotions it is accompanied by. Sharing such hidden experiences even with loved ones is very difficult and inconvenient, but if you work through internal problems with a specialist, you can find approaches to your envy, and make it your assistant and motivator.